Joy Suckers: How to Avoid the Comparison Trap

It was the nicest house I’d ever lived in. And it was all ours!

Joy Suckers: How to avoid the comparison trap
*Stock photo (Not my actual home)

When the realtor gave us the keys, I stood in the living room with a bucket of cleaning supplies in one hand, taking in the high ceiling, fireplace, and gorgeous wood floors.

As I dusted and polished the floors to a shine, I thought about some of the places I’d lived—a rusted out double-wide with peeling linoleum. An attic room with no heat or air conditioning. A one-bedroom apartment for three people. How wonderful to live in such a beautiful place!

I overflowed with thankfulness for three bedrooms and a bonus—and three bathrooms. (Oh, the bliss of so much bathroom space with teenage girls.)

Until gradually, as I got bored taking my walks in our subdivision, I ventured across the highway. Read more

Joy Suckers: How Do I Deal With Negative People?

This morning I’m sitting in my cozy office, with a candle burning and a hot cup of coffee. The only sounds I hear are the contented sighs of my cat and soft snores of my Boston terrier. Joy Suckers: How Do I Deal With Negative People?

But outside, it’s not so comfy. From the office window, all I see are gloomy grey clouds and snow on the roofs from yesterday’s flurries. A little bit ago, I heard the front door close as my husband headed out for a walk, garbed with heavy winter coat, hat, and gloves. My weather app says it’s 21 degrees out there.

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Is Shame Keeping You From Your 2018 Fitness Goals?

Afraid to try and fail—again—another healthy eating and exercise plan?

Me too!

But we face those choices when we’re making goals for 2018. If you’re like me, it’s easier to think of other goals to focus on, rather than fitness goals. (“Hey, let’s read 100 books in 2018!” or “Let’s clean out every closet and get rid of every piece of clutter!”)

2018 fitness goalsSome of my readers know I started my journey out of a pit of despair back in 2014. I was depressed, anxious, and basically wished I didn’t have to walk around on this earth anymore.

I often had thoughts like these:

I wish I could be someone else. Why do I hate myself so much?  Read more

How to Be Like Jesus: What Serving Does

We called her the Little General.

I was visiting my new boyfriend’s church one Sunday morning and felt a hand clamp my shoulder.

I turned around to find an older woman with bright eyes and a genuine smile.

“I wanted to meet you,” she said. 

I don’t remember what all she said to me in that short conversation, except for one thing.

“I’m the wedding coordinator around here, you know.” She gave me a conspiratorial wink.

I’m sure my eyes popped wide open and my jaw dropped two inches. Don’t say that so loud! We’ve only been dating for two months!

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Why #metoo Is More Powerful Than You Think

The TV at the gym was silent, but I headline across the bottom of the screen read, “The Harvey Weinstein Effect.”

When #metoo first materialized on social media, there were those who bemoaned the fact that it was merely the topic du jour and would fade away as quickly as that stupid “What color is this dress?” argument.

But it hasn’t. If anything, it’s picked up steam in all the major media outlets and Harvey Weinstein isn’t the only man whose despicable behavior is being called out and rightfully vilified.

There are others, and lots of them.
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One Important Book Every Woman Should Read

I thought I was the only one. Or at least, a rarity.

Uninvited. On the outside looking in.

It turns out, the feeling is almost universal, at least, according to Lysa TerKeurt’s book, Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and LonelyUninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely, Lysa TerKeurst

And that means that maybe you, too, need some guidance to deal with rejection. Read more

My Bohemian Garden: One Truth About God’s Love

I wrote a couple weeks ago about my unintentional garden. It’s a 4′ X 4′ tangle of weeds, tomato plants, and one prolific bell pepper plant.

Seriously, the bell pepper plant has four stalks with a dozen blooms each. The first stalk already has a dozen baby peppers forming. If it keeps it up, I won’t have to buy frozen bell peppers for a year.

And that’s not even mentioning the bountiful tomato plants!Garden, One Truth, God’s Love, Bohemian, Tomato, pruning
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